In the UK, currently, most people shop for their mums, mothers-in-law, wives and sisters who are mums. From experience, I know that it’s not a pleasant time for some people who have lost their mums.
It’s easy for a person to get back in the mourning stage of grief because of the buzz and displays around. It’s okay to feel that way; I feel that way too. And, sometimes I get jealous of people who have mums. But, I have learnt to reminisce with a bowl of ice cream.
The forthcoming Mother’s Day would be the fifth one without having my mum around. I miss her so much and sometimes I wish heaven had visiting days.
Anyway, I thought to share Five ways I survived my 5th Mother’s Day without my mum. I hope that it would help someone who’s dreading Mother’s Day by giving some comfort.
Tip 1: Celebrate a mother figure in your life:
No one can ever replace your mum, but if you have a mother figure, you can celebrate her as you would have done to your mum. It helps to ease the feeling of emptiness that you might be experiencing. Get her a gift, go for lunch with her, or get her flowers, just make her feel special.
Tip 2: Celebrate and honour the memories you have of your mum:
I honestly don’t know how long you have walked the journey of not having a mum and I am not stating that celebrating and honouring your mum would be easy. So, if you don’t feel up to it yet, it’s okay. Take your time.
Some of my best memories of my mum are: her pride and joy the day I graduated from university; the way she said goodbye at the airport, She was always beaming with love over me; the times we danced together and when she slept in my bed.
Tip 3: Gratitude:
The journey towards becoming whole starts with showing gratitude to the people who held your hands when you were mourning the loss of your mum. Sending a “Thank You” message to someone who has been there for you can be comforting. It helps you remember that you’re not alone.
Tip 4: Self-care and Love:
One of the many things, my mum instilled in me was the practise of self-care and self-love. I didn’t know the worth until I lost her; I’ve been devoted to practising it since she passed on.
Take time out to pamper yourself. Do something that would make you feel good, or something that you’ll be eager to tell your mum if she were alive.
Tip 5: Don’t rush the healing:
Everyone has their own way of grieving, so take your time to heal, no matter how long it takes. Find support, speak to a counsellor and remember to breathe.
And, if you are emotional on Sunday, it’s okay to cry. It’s also okay to decline an invitation to celebrating Mother’s Day.
Sending Love to you on Mother’s Day and I hope these tips will put a smile on your face.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Feel free to message me, if you need to chat with someone. I come bearing hugs with a bowl of ice-cream.
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Damifadd says
Nothing can beat a mother’s love.
thatcorporatechic says
Thank you Dami
Omotola says
Inspiring!!!
I Pray this helps someone else on Sunday.
Glad you have come this far in ypur own healing process.xxx
thatcorporatechic says
Thank you Omotola
Debbie Ade says
To all who have lost a Mom, I pray that everyday you’ll feel the love of God. That you will see rays of hope on a gloomy day and that you’ll find reasons to smile.
Btw,I love this post. And who said you couldn’t write? *wink* *wink*
thatcorporatechic says
haha… Thank you Debola, I know right, I will be doing a post on how I stopped asking people for help with reviewing my post! I am all about doing it now.
Jojo says
Awesome write up.
Will share it with my cousins..hopefully its helps
thatcorporatechic says
Thank you, Jojo, Thinking of you all.Xx
Temi A says
Beautiful write up doll. So thankful for the journey you are on and proud of you for being able to share this with us. Happy mother’s day ❤️❤️❤️.
thatcorporatechic says
Thank you beautiful.
xx