This time of the year in the UK is when everyone shops for their Mom, Mother-in-law, Wife, Sisters who are Mom or Mom to be.
From experience, it is not the most pleasant time for everyone especially if you have lost your mom! it really doesn’t matter the years or your age.
Anniversaries are there to reopen the wounds of loss.** inserting a big sigh** and it is so easy to fall back into the mourning stage of grief with the whole buzz and displays around you.
it’s okay to feel that way, I felt that way too and sometimes get jealous of people who have mom. ( This too is okay, but I have learnt to instead reminisce and have a bowl of ice cream to wash my sorrow off).
This mother’s day would be my fourth mother’s day without having my mummy around.I miss her so so much and sometimes wish heaven had visiting days.
Anyway, I thought to share Five ways “I survived my 3rd mother’s day without my mom”. with the hope it would help someone dreading Mother’s day and brings comfort your way.
Tip 1: Celebrate a mother figure in your life: No One can ever replace your mom but with a significant mother figure, you can celebrate them as you would have done to your mom.
It helps ease the feeling of emptiness you might be experiencing.
Get them a gift, go to lunch with them, get them flower and make them feel special.
Tip 2: Celebrate and honour the memories you have of your mom: I honestly don’t know how long you have walked the journey of not having a mom and I am not saying that celebrating and honouring your mom will be the easiest, or discussing with people about the happy memories you have of your mom or trying to do something your mom would have liked without feeling emotional.
So if you don’t feel up to it yet! it’s okay, Take your time.
One of my best memories of my mom was the day I graduated from university and whenever she said goodbye at the airport. She was always beaming with pride and love over me. And the times we danced together or when she slept on my bed.
Tip 3: Gratitude: The journey towards becoming whole starts with showing gratitude to the people who held your hands when you were mourning the loss of your mom.
Sending a Thank You Message To Someone Who Has Been With You On This Journey Can Help Bring Comfort To Your Soul.it helps you remember you’re not alone.
Tip 4: Self-care and Love: One of the many things, my mom instilled in me was the religious practice of self-care and self-love. I didn’t know the worth until I lost her and devoted myself to practising it, 4 years and counting.
Take time out and pamper yourself. Do something that would make you feel good, something that if your mom was alive, you will be eager to call her and tell her over the phone or in person.
Tip 5: Don’t Rush The Healing: Everyone has their own way of grieving, so take your time to heal, no matter how long it takes. Find Support, speak to a counsellor and remember to breathe.
And if you feel emotional on Sunday, it’s okay to cry and it’s also okay to decline an invitation to celebrating mother’s day.
Sending Love to you on Mother’s day and I hope these tips will bring a smile to your face.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Feel free to message me, if you need to chat with someone. I always come bearing hugs with a bowl of ice cream.
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